March 8, 2012

John Friend Scandal-Not really!

I know I know, you must have heard a million times about John Friend's scam, and you are tired of it. I understand because in passed month just about every yoga blogger, every green body mind site, every meditation oriented page have shared this news. It's old. I know.
Don't worry! I am not going to stir that any further. Those of you not familiar with the case, you can read the whole story if you're interested, or if a short version is enough for you: John Friend is the founder of Anusara (no longer part of it), one of the world’s fastest-growing yoga styles. Last month he became even more famous after accusations of sexual impropriety with his female students.

I never bothered to share my own thoughts on John "Boyfriend's" sexual scam, simply because what have happened doesn't surprise me at all, and we will continue to see it in the future. In India for instance, the same happens almost every year or two. But what's wrong with that I am asking? He enjoyed his romance as much as the ladies did, two or more adult people you know, doesn't seem wrong to me! ( Nothing compare to abuses happening on children in catholic churches! ). So let's not blame John Friend ok?! We must see that it was us, blind and stupid, letting somebody fool us for so long! How many more so called "spiritual leaders are out there I wonder.

Genuine seeker should remember one thing: there are no gurus to choose from ok?! It's not like you open  the yellow pages to look for one! The truth is if you happen to come across a real guru even once in your life, you are a very fortunate being! Don't thing that this good, friendly guy you are visiting twice a week is your guru! He may be your friend, maybe your teacher, but not your guru!

So who is your guru then? and how will you recognize him?
It's simple. Real guru will give you an experience. He will crank your energy and have you "see" in such a way, that you won't believe it's actually you sitting there! A real guru will not only have mastery over his life energy, but over yours also. If it so happens that sudden rush of energy comes in to your body, this is a clear indication that the man sitting in front of you is your guru. The experience will be distinct, you can't miss it! When you meet such a being, when you come across to such a possibility, you will not only rely on him; you will be willing to give your life to him, if you're intelligent enough.


10 comments:

  1. So turelly said...I have felt this "sudden rush of energy", felt his presence at home without him being around physically...simple yet so wonderfully my life is going on.
    I am so fortunate to have found my guru in this life time :)

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    1. Hello Mamatha,
      Thank you for sharing your insights :)

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  2. I was not intelligent enough or sensitive enough to realize that the person in front of me, playing dodge ball with me was indeed my Guru. It took 3 months of Sadhana followed by 8 days of total silence and intense meditation to experience that space, that possibility known as Guru. Since then, there has been no looking back.

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    1. Dear Anonymous,

      Thank you your insights!
      Doe's every seeker have to be under a guidance? Is this the only way?
      You know it's not! You becoming more evolved human being is wonderful! I only wish we all were of that kind, oh, poor guru could just walk naked...it would make his life easy.

      Nothing wrong with playing a game. It doesn't matter who you are.!

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  3. You ask "But what's wrong with that ..? He enjoyed his romance as much as the ladies did." What's wrong is using power irresponsibly. Whenever there is a power differential and the person with power uses his power to fulfill personal needs rather than the stated aim of the organization, he has lost integrity, dishonored himself, and betrayed the person who trusted him - in this case trusted him as a yoga teacher. One hallmark of abuse of the power relationship is secrecy and covering up. Not everyone wants teachers or guidance. But trustworthy teachers can accelerate personal growth. I hope if you find a true guru and "give your life to him", that your highest interests are served and there is no betrayal of that trust.

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    1. I see your point, but I am not concerned about what he did, really. Yes, many are disappointed, I understand, but they can't blame anyone. In the world, it's always us, who empowers others to become leaders no? So to prevent people like John from becoming powerful, I am giving advise, little quality check in the last paragraph.
      So heads up! Keep looking! Let's not dismiss all the apples in the basket just because one rotten one!

      Love.
      Denis

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  4. Indeed, everyone should take personal responsibilty. If one chooses to look up the facts, one will uncover the fact that all of real Yoga is Hinduism. Then, true to any religion, the teacher will (at least) be a Hindu. And, true to any religion, donations are offered for the teachings. Does the so-called "yoga" of today fit?

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    1. Namaskaram Swami,
      I wouldn't call a real yoga Hinduism. It just doesn't apply in today's world and will encounter a lot of disagreement in community.
      I don't feel need to try to define where yoga comes from, it doesn't really matter, why should it matter? Instead, what it can offer we may want to look at, and how to bring it to the common people in the world. This is to me the most crucial today.

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  5. uh so what? a yoga instructor who is an adult has sex and smokes pot with other willing adults?! where's the scandal/ lol

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    1. Hi! Thanks for commenting.
      I am saying we all have our needs, bur keep them from your so called spiritual process.
      Peace!

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